Woman World Web

July 30th, 2010 by Dr. Vance Hardisty

If you want to believe what Hollywood has been shoving down people’s throats for decades now, you’ll buy into the idea that sex is the bottom line of life. It’s the ultimate, according to them; the end result of everything that makes existence worthwhile. The only thing that competes with it, in Hollywood’s twisted view, is violence. But sex sells movies and true romance has been reduced to the “chick flicks”. What we see now, in most movies where any type of romance is exhibited, is a couple slamming together with wide open mouths for what is deemed a kiss. Their hands are tearing at each other’s clothes and as they gasp their way through moans and groans, they are moving as fast as they can toward the bedroom - or they may bypass the bedroom and do it right there, standing, sitting or otherwise.

The beautiful nuances that bind a woman and a man together in true love, the tenderness, sweetness and gentleness, is lost to the hot and heavy for the moment. Married couples who try to emulate their movie idols in that way are going to discover it works only occasionally, if that. Making love is the true talent - almost everyone is capable of just having sex.

Now, don’t get us wrong. There is a time and place for hot and heavy, passionate sex between a husband and a wife. But if that is the only kind of sex you know or want, your relationship will be the poorer for it. After all, if that kind of sex was the answer, why is the divorce rate in Hollywood through the roof?

When a woman thinks that her guy’s sexual desires are nothing more than lust and she is a victim of his selfishness, she begins to turn off and, in time, may even want out of the marriage. Wanting them and loving sex are the two most important ways for a wife to feel to satisfy a mans emotional needs. Where a man goes awry in the matter is thinking that sexual expression does it for his wife emotionally. He may feel that nothing more is needed except for his working to bring in money to take care of her. He’s wrong.

When a woman thinks that her guy’s sexual desires are nothing more than lust and she is a victim of his selfishness, she begins to turn off and, in time, may even want out of the marriage. Most men want their wives to desire them and enjoy sex. Where a man goes awry in the matter is thinking that sexual expression does it for his wife emotionally. He may feel that nothing more is needed except for his working to bring in money to take care of her. He’s wrong. It is essential that he meet her emotional needs even when he isn’t making love to her. When he doesn’t is when she has trouble believing that his lovemaking is anything more than his satisfying his own desires and physical need. At that point she begins to resent him and sex.

If your lovemaking has been reduced to pure sex, you are missing out on the ultimate in sexual expression. You are making holes in the dike that holds back a sea of discontent and boredom that occurs in far too many marriages. Men, learn how to make love the right way, not only in bed but leading up to the moment and your wife will adore you. We have a lot on that in our books written just for guys, as well as additional material at www.LoveRelationshipHeadquarters.com.

Ladies, teach your guys the right way, not only to have sex, but how to make love on a continuing basis. We show you how to do that in our books and material written just for women. We’re vitally interested in encouraging you not to follow Hollywood’s leading. We want you to find what binds a man and woman together in love forever. We are interested in saving your marriage or making it stronger and more beautiful, because we’re interested in you. Real lovemaking is just one part of that, we know, but it’s an important part in keeping a marriage strong. Your marriage.

Ladies, it is your responsibility to teach men what women want and need. Learn to express your feelings and desires. We show you how to do that in our books and material written just for women. Don’t bother listening to the lines you hear from Hollywood. Their divorce rate is worse than the rest of us. We want you to find what binds a man and woman together in love forever. We are interested in saving your marriage or making it stronger and more beautiful, because we’re interested in you. Real lovemaking is just one part of that, we know, but it’s an important part in keeping a marriage strong. Your marriage. Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

Marriages in trouble can find help? 100’s of thousands have used our marriage advice. We’ll show you how to save your marriage , and get separate help for women