“I Want My Husband Back” And What To Do About It
July 27th, 2009 by Brett Stephens
Are you one of those women saying,” I want my husband back” as you see your marriage starting to fail? It can slowly happen without you knowing it until one day you wake up and realize your marriage is about to end.
If you are not prepared to see your marriage collapse right before you, then do everything you can to avoid it. Here are 5 tips to win husband back and save your marriage:
1) You are mutually to blame:
I hear you saying, “I want my husband back!”, but what you must know is that it was not you, and it was not just him that let the marriage crumble. You are both responsible for making it work. So if you are prepared to help improve the marriage, then so should your husband.
2) One person is not to blame:
Understand that it wasn’t all one person who is guilty. “It takes two to tango” the proverb goes. The same thing is confirmed in any relationship. It isn’t only one individual that makes it work and it isn’t just one person that causes it to crumble.
What this means is that it is unfair if you take all the responsibility, or if you pass it all on to your husband. As long as you are playing your part in fixing the marriage, so should he.
3) Identify what makes you a good couple:
Start by looking at where you are in life and where you want to be. Identify what exactly it is that makes you happy together and pushes you to keep things going. Try see those similar qualities in your husband. If you do still love each other after these years together, you will find that common ground upon which you can rebuild your marriage as “I want my husband back”.
4) Use that common ground to your advantage:
When you have found that common ground, make an effort to uncover some technique to exercise that to your gain. If there is something that brings the 2 of you pleasure, attempt to find some technique for the two of you to face it as one.
Let it seem like a impulsive idea on how to get husband back and aim to make it seem like it is his suggestion. Try and cause some thrill about it. Don’t go over board with the enthusiasm, though.
5) Let him know your thoughts on the marriage:
Once you out together doing the activity you used to love doing as a couple, you will have a chance to talk about the marriage with comfort. Tell him what attracted you to him in the beginning, and how grateful you are for the marriage - and remind him how much you used to have together.
It will be so much easier to share your feelings with each other, when you comfortable and happy doing your favorite activity together. Do not be afraid to tell him “I want my husband back”, because he probably feels the same way about you.
Finally - What you need to come to terms with is that the marriage may never be what it once was - times change and so people. And even if you do win husband back, the marriage may never be its best.
But what you should believe is that the marriage can go beyond that high point. Tell yourself that the best part of the marriage is still to come if you are willing to work at it. Convince yourself, “I want my husband back, but I also want the marriage to be better than ever”, and then put in the effort to make it a reality.
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