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March 31st, 2009 by Beth Sanderson

Striving toward an amazing bond between two people that have tied the knot is something that more couples should work for and consider a priority. Fulfilling and successful marriages are in existence and although it might not seem it, are steadily growing in popularity. Marriages that are pleasurable and rewarding are not as obscure as they used to be.

Although there are those who dont want to take responsibility for it, having control over how your marriage turns out is in the hands of the husband and wife. Dont be misled by those that do not matter; the man and woman in a marriage are the ones that can truly make it or break it. How a man and woman behaves in a marriage, especially the first few years, dictates what happens to that marriage in the future.

Marriage is all about give and take and nothing is more important regarding that, then always being ready to communicate and to deeply listen to your spouse. An important point toward a good marriage includes; being ready to sacrifice what you want for the good of the marriage as well as allowing your spouse to be a different person than you are and accepting that. When it comes to marriage, there is a saying that always works; be quick to listen and slow to speak.

Giving your precious marriage time to flourish requires an altruistic attitude which can be difficult, but are very fulfilling. When the decision is made by two people to get married, both individuals must come to the realization that what you sow or give to that marriage, you will reap or get out of it. Nowadays, most people spend a great deal of time on their diet, hair style, etc. and somehow forget that the very vital thing in your existence, your marriage, needs to be worked on and valued just as much.

Marriages, as weve observed over many years, go through different stages of development that are pretty much very predictable. If a person is unfamiliar with the strengths and pitfalls of marriage, they will not be aware of the transitions that happen and be able to watch for them. Marriages call for weathering of storms and coming out of these emotional hurricanes better off for it, knowing that there will be more, but now hopefully, you are better prepared for the next phase.

The stages of a marriage are very interesting and many times confusing all at the same moment, with one of the stages of your relationship being all flowers and symphonies as you wonder how you ever lived without this person in your life. The stages of marriage include good and bad phases and one of them is that you wonder what the heck you were thinking that you even married this person. Marriage and its stages creates so many emotions which includes the stage where you love your spouse yet you dont like his: smelly breath in the morning, the way she takes forever to get ready for an event and the list goes on and on.

Each marriage is chock full of so many different components that anyone that is married has to be so very aware not to speak anything that you will be sorry for later on such as: your mother is a monster, when I married you my whole life went down the drain, youre the reason I hate this marriage and several other choice tidbits that Im sure we all can think of. Marriage is teamwork; it is living together and realizing that you are not opponents but truly on the same team. People that are married have to be extremely cautious that in the throes of a combative discussion, you do not say things that you want to smack yourself for ever saying.

Marriage does have its peaks and valleys and moments of elation and moments of true despair. If during your marriage, you find that perseverance really works, you may find yourself in true happiness and accepting that the other person isnt perfect but you are willing to see this through, knowing that youre not perfect either. Marriage is a matter of realizing that just like everything else in life, there is good and there is bad, but our perspective on our marriage is what counts most of all.