Pride and Self Respect Will Help You Get Him Back
March 26th, 2009 by Molly Laws
When you try to win ex boyfriend back you may feel like you need to go begging on your hands and knees. You may feel that you have to lower yourself and lose every bit of pride that you have.
The breakup may have gone a long way towards hurting your pride as it is, there is no need to further hurt your self image. There is no reason that you shouldn’t be able to win ex boyfriend back and retain some dignity.
If the breakup involved you getting dumped, then you might be looking at yourself negatively. But there are many women who initiated the breakup and then shortly after realized that it was the wrong decision leading them to go up to the guy and ask for another chance. This is the mistake that is often made and should be avoided.
If He Left You
Have you ever wondered why the person started a relationship with you in the first place? Maybe your personality was different back then? Try to make some comparisons in your mind to answer those questions.
If you want to rekindle that love that was once there, try putting all the elements back that caused the fire in the first place.
That side of you must be visible to him for any impact to be made. The trick is to let him realize that you are the same person that you were when he first fell in love with you. Just because he won?t see it clearly doesn?t mean that other people can?t either. You can?t always force a horse to drink just by leading it near a water source. But there might be another horse that can take your offer.
If You Left Him
Admitting your mistake for breaking up with him is the first step for any hope of renewal. Show to him that you don?t have any expectations for things to bloom again and that you are willing to take any insult. You also need to accept any decision that he makes after admitting your mistake. Apologizing shouldn?t be left out either. It is okay to ask for forgiveness as long as you don?t beg for it. Again, begging for another chance is considered a turn off most people.
After you said your piece, you can simply walk away and give him time to think about it. Time alone is necessary for him to make his judgment and see if going back is worth it. It is understandably tough to admit your mistake and accept anything that will take place. But if he realizes his value on the way you see him, he might give it another shot.
Unless you have some amazing love spells, you may find it a huge challenge to win your ex boyfriend back. If he is the one and the result is supposed to be marriage or a life long relationship then it will happen.
Remember that you should never go after him, but let him do the chasing. You could be humiliated during the process, but if all goes well, you can win your ex boyfriend back and at the same time, keep your dignity.
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